How many of you have ever been a victim of bullying
So how many of you have ever been a victim of bullying? Some of you? All of you? How many of you have been a victim of cyberbullying? Anybody? Well, how many of you know what bullying is? Well, the official dictionary definition of a bully is to seek to harm, intimidate, or coerce (someone perceived as vulnerable). Do any of you know what cyberbullying is? Well, the official dictionary definition of cyberbullying is the use of electronic communication to bully a person, typically by sending messages of an intimidating or threatening nature. Throughout this paper, we will be discussing groups of individuals that are bullies or have been victims of bullying and the psychological effect that happens when you are a bully or are a victim of bullying. Because of the severity of psychological effects that bullying has, we, as a society, should suggest individuals get help or see a therapist to prevent individuals from wanting to harm or hurt themselves in any way or more importantly hurt others around them. So how many of you have ever been a victim of bullying? Some of you? All of you? How many of you have been a victim of cyberbullying? Anybody? Well, how many of you know what bullying is? Well, the official dictionary definition of a bully is to seek to harm, intimidate, or coerce (someone perceived as vulnerable). Do any of you know what cyberbullying is? Well, the official dictionary definition of cyberbullying is the use of electronic communication to bully a person, typically by sending messages of an intimidating or threatening nature. Throughout this paper, we will be discussing groups of individuals that are bullies or have been victims of bullying and the psychological effect that happens when you are a bully or are a victim of bullying. Because of the severity of psychological effects that bullying has, we, as a society, should suggest individuals get help or see a therapist to prevent individuals from wanting to harm or hurt themselves in any way or more importantly hurt others around them.
The first thing to be discussed is what being a victim of bullying does to someone psychologically. The first thing to realize is that bullying takes places in many forms. Because there are so many forms of harassment, we will discuss how being a victim of bullying affects a person in a psychological aspect. According to the article, Bullying On and Off-Line, it states, "bullying can take place in many forms, including, making threats, spreading rumors, physically or verbally abusing someone, and purposefully isolating someone" (Sullivan and Marion, 2017). The statement proves that depending on what type of threats, comments or remarks described in the situation, the kind of bullying could affect someone's psychological state if they are the target of the harassment.
Another thing that is known is that a lot of students often tend not to vocalize is that they are experiencing harassment of any kind or have experienced bullying in the past. From the same article that we used, it states, "at least 64 percent of students do not report when they have been a victim of bullying" (Sullivan and Marion, 2017). The statement shows that because they do not speak out and talk about what happens to them, then they start to go through extreme loneliness and isolation. In time, the separation begins to have a severe psychological effect on the victim. There was an article about students from Estonia. According to the report, Who Suffers Most from Being involved in Bullying? , the article states, " odds are higher for girls to be the bully-victims" (Mark, Varnik, Sisask 2019). The statement proves that in Estonia, girls have a higher chance of being in a worse psychological state in their minds because after all, they are the ones with a higher chance of being harassed. But, also, according to the same article, it states, "The lowest level of mental well-being for both sexes is due to cyberbullying" (Mark, Varnik, Sisask 2019). The comment showed above clearly displays that if it's not just affecting girls but also boys, then the issue of cyberbullying needs to be looked at and assessed.
This point leads to the next discussion which is the issue of cyberbullying and what happens psychologically to a person who gets cyberbullied. Now, cyberbullying is a lot different from face to face bullying because you can not see the person that's in behind the screen which makes it a lot more dangerous in a sense. From the same article that we used to point out evidence, it also discusses cyberbullying. It states, "about 20 percent of children ages 11 to 18 have been victims of cyberbullying" (Sullivan and Marion 2017). Although the statistic is not nearly as high as face to face bullying, we, as a society should shed light upon on it because of technology and social media is now all every teenager uses these days. So, it's important to talk about it. But anyways, now that we discussed cyberbullying. Let's shed light on another type of bullying, the bullying of LGBTQ+ people or people who have questions about their sexuality. Now there was some critical information in the article, LGB & Questioning Students in Schools-The Moderating Effects of Homophobic Bullying & School Climate on Negative Outcomes, that we need to discuss. In the section, it states, "Lesbian, gay, & bisexual students (LGB) & those questioning their sexual orientation are often at high risk for adverse outcomes like depression, suicidality, drug use, & school difficulties" (Birkett, Espelage, Koenig 2009). The statement shows that the fact of the matter is that the focus group that needs more attention with the bullying and harassment issue is, in fact, the LGBTQ+ community. The harassment of LGB students is affecting the individuals way more than it is the heterosexual male or female. However, LGB students' bullying does not even compare to what happens when students who question their sexuality and how they get bullied or harassed. According to the same article that we just discussed, it states, "Students who question their sexual orientation reported the most bullying, the most homophobic victimization, the most drug use, the most feelings of depression and suicidality and more truancy than either heterosexual or LGB students" (Birkett, Espelage, Koenig 2009). The statement above displays that students who question their sexuality should be one of the top priorities of the school along with the other LGB students. The report also proves a point that we have been discussing all along which is, the psychological effect on someone who is experiencing harassment, has experienced it or was experiencing it. It clearly shows the mental aspect of what would happen if you were a student who questions their sexuality and is currently getting bullied. The type of actions that are displayed includes truancy, drug use, depression, suicide, etc.
Now that we have taken the time to look into the psychological aspects of what happens when you are a victim of bullying, we are now going to look into the mental issues of the bully itself, and what makes them do it.
Table 3a time period during school which bullying students bulliedothers.Total (N-33) Boys(N=14) Girls (N=19)7-9 years n=11 n=4 n=710-12 years n=22 n=8 n=1413-15 years n=16 n=10 n=616-18 years n=3 n=2 n=1
Above is a table of the statistics from the article, Adolescent's Perception: Who is the victim? Who is the bully? What can be done to stop bullying? It shows the statistics of bullies who bully students and what certain age they bullied the students. A precise observation is that girls were the ones that had a higher number of students who were bullies from ages 7-12. But on the bottom half of the chart, the statistics are that boys have a higher number of students who bully. Interestingly enough, this chart is quite the opposite of another table that was directly from the same article.
Table 1Percentage of adolescents that reported being victims ofbullying, bullies or both bullies and victims (bully-victims)during their school years Total Boys Girls (N=117) (N=71) (N=48)Victim of Bullying 39 46 34Bully 28 29 27Bully-victim 13 15 11
Now, what is interesting about this table is that the other table was half girls and half boys, but these particular table boys are taking up the majority in regards to the ones of having the most victims of bullying, the most people who bully, and a combination of both. Now that we have seen the statistics for who exactly are the bullies out of the statistics that we've seen. Let's move on to why they bully and the reasoning behind why bullies bully and what causes them to intimidate. After doing some research, there is an article called Why Do People Bully? Scientific Reasons. They listed six reasons as to why people bully and in the section, the reasons stated are," Stressful or Traumatic Situations, Aggressive Behaviors, They've been bullied, Difficult Home Life, Low Access to Education, and Relationships" (Ditch the Label 1-2). But the main reasons that tend to go a lot more into detail are stressful and traumatic situations and difficult home life which is what we're going to go more into detail. According to the article, one of the reasons why students bully other kids is because of traumatic and stressful situations that occurred in the last five years. Some examples, according to the article, are, "parent's divorce, the death of a relative, or gaining of a little brother or sister"(Ditch the Label 1). From looking at the observation and the facts, the examples of the trauma or stress that they have to go through is understandable as to why they lash out at other children. They lash out because of the pain and the hurt that they feel so they have to feel better about themselves. Another reason, why students bully, according to the article, is because of Difficult Home Life. In the article, it states, "1 in 3 of those who bully people told us that they feel like their parents/guardians don't have enough time to spend with them. Violent households with lots of arguments and hostility are also another reason" (Ditch The Label 2). From seeing the evidence in front of us, we can make a clear observation that this is a pretty understandable reason why they bully. They bully because of what's going on at home and how they do not have any control of their situation so to feel in power, they go and intimidate other students because it makes them feel in control and have power.
After all of the information that we have looked at and examined, here lies the proposed situation: we, as a society, should suggest individuals that are dealing with harassment or in fact, they are the bullies themselves, to get help and maybe talk to a professional individual like a therapist or counselor or psychologist. Often there's a bad connotation with seeing a therapist or psychologist, and that is because you think that if you see a therapist or psychologist, there's something wrong with you. Often that is not the case, and it is entirely okay to talk to an individual about your problems. Matter of fact, it is highly recommended because it gives you space to talk about issues with a professional who is going to provide you with professional advice on how to deal with or handle a particular situation. Also, if you need extra support, you can go with an adult such as your mom, dad, grandma, or whoever you want to go with you to the therapy session.
One perspective of the whole "bullying" discussion/topic is instead of suggesting that they should seek help; a suggestion is that they should learn to have thicker skin and not be so sensitive. That perspective does bring up a good point; however, it is okay not to have thick skin. According to the article, The Right to Not Grow Thicker Skin, states, "There is no law that states people have to "suck it up" and grow a thicker skin." On the contrary, the law is on the side of victims of harassment"(Gleason 2). The statement makes a clear observation that says that it is okay to cry and get hurt. You have a right to feel your emotions, and when you get bullied, it is entirely okay to embrace your feelings and how you feel when you get bullied.
All in all, we learned the psychological aspects of why people bully, what happens when students get bullied and how it effects them. We learned that it is okay not to have thick skin and for you to feel your emotions. We also learned that it is alright to see a therapist or psychologist so that you can talk about your problems if you are experiencing harassment or have experienced bullying. Two of the main reasons why people bully are because of stressful and traumatic situations such as divorce, deaths, or gaining a little brother or sister. Also, they bully because of difficult home life. Students who question their sexual orientation are often the ones who get bullied the most, get into the most drug use, are the ones who get depression and anxiety the most often. However, cyberbullying in Estonia is the main cause for both boys and girls to have the lowest mental well-being for all students.